In 2007, Italian police arrested Salvatore Lo Piccolo.
The dude is an actual boss from the real life Sicilian Mafia.
As they explore his house, they stumble official “10 commands” of their staff.
In other words, “If you want to be a good mobster, follow these 10 easy steps!”
- No one can show himself directly to another of our friends. There must be a third person to do this.
- Never look at friends of friends.
- Never seen in the police.
- Don’t go to the pubs and clubs.
- Always available for Cosa Nostra is a duty – even if your spouse is about to give birth.
- Appointments should be completely respected.
- Spouses should be treated with respect.
- When asked for any information, the answer should be reality.
- Money cannot be adapted if it belongs to others or other families.
- People who cannot be part of Cosa Nostra: Anyone who has a close relative to the police, anyone with a two-time relative to the family, whoever acts badly and does not hold moral values.
These policies certainly do not cover every single decision that every Mobster day needs to make, but these are policies that can be known, internalized, and apply when they find themselves in a certain situation and are not sure how to act.
The disturbance is not the only person with the policies as well.
Ancient Samurai in Japan, there is a “Bushido” aka “the way of the warrior.” 8 Rules for their personal behavior code:
- Righteousness (justice)
- Courage
- Benevolence (Mercy)
- Respect
- Honesty
- Honor
- Honesty
- Self -control
Everywhere, the cavalry in medieval Europe has a “chivalry code,” covering things like “protection of weak and poor, grace and respect, bravery and bravery of the military.”
Maximus Decimus Meridius in the Gladiator and his fellow soldiers always chose each with “strength and honor.”
In 300, The Spartan soldiers know that “go home with your shield, or here.”
We have Laws for Nerd Fitness Rebellion Din!
I bring these policies because we may not be mobsters, knights, or samurai …
But I choose adding some rules to your life can help.
The rules will help us make decisions.
Life is complicated, and our brains are capable of talking to us in and out of various decisions.
However, when we have a rule in place, we are allowed to make a clear choice rather than disturbing it.
More important. We can make a rule once, and then we do not have to waste any brain strength or strength in every decision next.
Here’s a quick example:
Most successful popular diet is a simple list of policies that people follow that Get them to eat fewer calories.
- Intermittent fasting means “I’m just eating between noon at 8pm.”
- The Paleo Diet means “I have nothing to eat that a caveman will not eat.”
- Vegan means “I don’t eat any products that come from animals.”
I’m not saying any of these above techniques are better or worse than anything else. I bring these heuristicians because they have helped a lot, and it has not been bad for many.
Everyone can come up with a set of rules of intent that will help them to level up their lives.
I definitely have The “fitness” rules that I usually follow:
I know when I follow these policies, “the Nerd’s way,” I have a good chance to stay well, healthy, and feel good to myself.
I also have the rules regarding the world’s coherence and Being a good person:
These specific policies may not work for you, and that’s okay.
They are my policies.
Your policies should reflect Your situation.
We respect the policies of others
Here’s another fun hack: maybe we don’t like all the rules, but we tend to Respect other people’s policies:
Our co -worker offers you a donut, and you say “Ohhhhh, I shouldn’t.” They can go back with “c’mon, live a little,” because they don’t want to be the only person who eats a donut …
But if you say “I have a rule that I don’t eat donats on the weekends,” then you have a difficult rule you follow, and your co -worker may respect it.
Some people may avoid certain foods or drinks for religious or personal factors.
There is no reason that you may not have the rules for any damn reason you wish!
What are your policies?
A great combination of aspirations, professionals, and society is a great place to start. Or heck, just one of each!
Heck, at least one for each can be a great place to start.
These policies should be yours.
Here are some ideas to help you get started:
- At work “I’m doing what I’m saying I’ll do, on schedule, or I’ll tell my team in advance the schedule if I need more time.”
- To friends, “I always send a note of gratitude after being invited to a friend’s thing”
- For health, “I just drank wine on Friday night and Saturday while watching college football”
- For sleep, “I only watched 1 episode of TV per night. I stopped playing video games and killing social media at 8:00.”
Start writing some aspiration rules and see what it feels like.
I found the more specific and pass/fail the rules, the more likely you are to follow them.
The rules that really help you make long -term decisions in difficult situations. You know, those situations in which the lizard brain said “Eat candy!” or “drink a drink” or “stay late and doomscroll for 7 hours!”
The rules can also be pre-emptive so you don’t end with those situations in the first place.
We can use technology, software that blocks the app, or recruit our friends to help us stay true to our policies.
When you get to know your policies, and really write them down, keep track of how you do them.
If you find yourself to break your policies more often than not, it may be time to adjust the rules, make some deep thinking, or work with a therapist to start understanding Why and What is going on.
Remember, frustration can be a hell of a teacher, and leaning against fear is a great opportunity to know the life of the lesson trying to teach us.
-Steve
