A reader asked the “The Ethicist” Advice column of the New York Times magazine or a “straight white guy” can date with “women of color” To “fight racism.”
The anonymous reader explained his “controversial” Preference for dating non-white women To columnist Kwame Anthony Appiah on Valentine’s Day.
“I want to give priority to dating women of color,” the reader wrote. “I am looking for an intercultural relationship. I strongly believe that one of the most important ways to fight racism is through relationships. Some of me think that I will always be somewhat disappointed if what is ultimately one of the most important relationships in My life is with another white person.
An advisory column in the New York Times was about the strategy of just dating non-white women. (Photo by: BSIP/Universal Images Group via Getty Images)
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He added that his motivation is “to combat implicit bias, grew up in a fairly white, almost rural place” and since then “has been dedicated to training (self) about issues of racism, sexism and other forms of Cyrarchy while he Also learns from marginalized people. ”
Kyrarchy is a feminist theory term that refers to a social system for domination, oppression and submission.
He also compared his dating preference to “eat a food or take on a habit because it is good” for him until he “really likes what it is”.
“Both me and my hypothetical partner of color would learn more and choose less comfort, to make more effort and to practice more, than else in a culturally homogeneous relationship,” the reader said. “And one of the most important ways that I hope to combat racism separately is to use my own privilege (economic, family connections, education) for people of color, including any biracial children we bring to this world.”
The anonymous reader compared dating women of color to force themselves to eat food that is good for him. (Istock)
“Here is my question: despite my Well -meaning anti -racist principlesIs this preference (as friends have suggested) wrong, insensitive or somehow racist? “He asked.
Although Appiah called his dedication ‘impressive’, he warned the reader about the disadvantages to ‘treat a relationship as a seminar’.
“Although you have your hypothetical partner not objectification, you are a bit of an instrumentalization of her,” Appiah replied. “That does not mean that you are not entitled to this campaign of strenuous self-optimization. Just be transparent about your box control ambitions. Perhaps some prospects will be grateful for your offer to make your privileges at their disposal while at the beginning Your journey of elevation.
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Appiah encouraged a compromise and peaceful meetings between Democratic and Republican family members In a column last November prior to Thanksgiving.
Appiah warned the anonymous reader for treating dating as a “seminar”. (Istock)
“Nowadays, family gatherings are routinely uniting Catholics and Protestants, Jews and Gentiles, Baptists and Bishoppers, blacks and whites and Latinos and Asians; not so long ago they were able to unite Democrats and Republicans. In perfect harmony? Far from it. Remember that people are more than the sum of their political views – and that intolerance has the habit of breeding intolerance, “he wrote.
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